Fat Mom or Skinny Mom? How about Confident Mom!

I’ve never lacked confidence. I’m not humble or apologetic. I often say that people who think that “life isn’t a competition” are probably in second place; I use the hashtag #gobigorgohome. In 2011, I was 220 lbs., and today I am 145 lbs. Why does that matter? No really, I’m asking that question, why does it matter in today’s society whether I’m a fat mom or a skinny one?

A healthier Jessica is better than an unhealthy one. And I’ll admit, I have more energy, eat better, and exercise now. But again, I ask, what’s the big deal? My confidence hasn’t changed–I’m still as confident as ever. And more importantly, I am very comfortable in my skin.

fat jes rev  skinny jes rev

My husband and I feel that besides teaching our daughter to love God and treat others as she wants to be treated, self-confidence is essential to success in life. A confident girl holds the golden ticket; she will not be easily influenced by kids at school and will trust her instincts.

Our little ones hear us lamenting about our muffin tops and joking about our weight. I remember my mom going to Weight Watchers meetings and drinking Slim Fast shakes. I think it is confusing for a young girl to see her parents doing these things. On the flip side, I do not think that a girl who sees her mom going for a run or joining her friends in the park for a Stroller Strength class thinks her mom is doing so because she is a “fatty.”

As moms, we have an obligation to our daughters to make sure they view their bodies with awe and wonderment. They should not only hear us preach confidence and positive self-image, but also see us practice it ourselves. They should not hear the word “diet” from us. Looking to lose weight? See your doctor first. Don’t put yourself down in front of your kids.

Jessica and Lily

Teach your little ones that they are marvelous and fascinating persons, inside and out. Tell them they are unique in the entire world. And self-confidence should NEVER be based on appearance. The best role model our girls have is their mommas. So fat or skinny, let them know you think you are fabulous and think they are, too. What, you don’t think you are fabulous? Well, shame on you! Because all you have to do is look at that little person you are raising to see how wonderful you are.

9 Responses to Fat Mom or Skinny Mom? How about Confident Mom!

  1. Emily Jun 19, 2013 at 11:11 am #

    You’re amazing Jessica!

  2. Liz Jun 19, 2013 at 12:53 pm #

    Great article!!

  3. Chad Voiselle Jun 19, 2013 at 4:53 pm #

    Great article Jessica. It is important that my kids and wife know I love them NO MATTER WHAT! Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom.

  4. Gina Jun 19, 2013 at 5:40 pm #

    This is beautiful and why I LOVE SS!!!

  5. Debbie Garvin Jun 19, 2013 at 7:42 pm #

    Hi Jessica. This is Rachel’s mom Debbie. I just moved to Jax. I am enjoying your blog. Who knew you were such a great writer. Your kids are beautiful!

  6. Annie Jun 20, 2013 at 5:17 pm #

    Hi, Jessica! Annie from Reno Moms Blog. Your post really struck a chord with me, but it’s that last line that is so memorable. Thanks for helping me remember what’s really important!

  7. Sarah Jun 21, 2013 at 4:29 pm #

    I LOVE this post and its so true!! We are fearfully and wonderfully made!!

  8. Emily Jun 22, 2013 at 10:53 pm #

    Beautiful! One of my biggest cheerleaders to get out there & workout is my son, Asher! He cheers me on, tells me to run faster (when I’m pushing him in the stroller!), and also tells me good job….but no matter what, he loves me just the way I am. Keep up the good work! ~Emily from Quad City Moms Blog

  9. jackie gregson Jun 28, 2013 at 7:38 pm #

    Great article! Made me think twice about myself.

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